Go for what you deserve

ok girls.... so this post is for you my friends!!!....Most girls walk around in life thinking that at the age of 21 or 22 they will have that special someone that they want to spend the rest of their lives with (and if not we are in trouble).... and that he will be tall, dark, and handsome yall will have a nice sweet and welcoming home with 2 or 3 adorable children.. but wait i may be getting ahead of myself here... first comes the wedding.. A wedding is something that every girl dreams of and has been planning for years now.. and still plans up in till the day she walks down the aisle and says I DO! .... but i wonder if maybe us girls fantasize about it a little too much ... i know i am guilty of it also... i think that sometimes we are all so in a hurry  to  find that MR. RIGHT, plan that big bagging wedding ,and opps there we go married!!! NO longer SINGLE... a lot of girls search for that "together status" so much that I think that we forget what we deserve!


I encourage you to sit and think about what you derserve... just within this semester  i know that i have had atleast 2 handfuls of conversations on "guys", "mr perfects", and "is he the one?"... with my sorority sisters alone. Girls ... Go for what you deserve.. do not persue a guy that only gives you half of what you deserve!
Now this is coming from someone who was never single throughout highschool and came to college with a boyfriend.... i ve always been the kinda girl to jump into one relationship and  into another. all i can say is i lived and learned... i wish i could take some of those moments back.. but then again as i said i ve learned from them. Since i ve been single i pick up and realize on how I at once was just living in a fantasy land... thinking oh.. me and him--> we are going to get married.. sure there are tons of things i despise about him and sure he doesnt always treat me right.. but ill change him!! lesson number 1... if you with a guy and want to change him... run!!!! your never going to change a guy... you are suppose to  love and accept him for who he is .. and if he has ways about him you cant live with.. its time to say adios!!! Never settle for a guy that you feel like doesnt respect you, adore you, or give you all the things that money cant by .. like a friendship.. a sholder to cry on when you have had a bad day, someone to take care of you when you have a little to much fun, and someone that goes out and has a little too much fun with you,  and all the love in the world that means more than anything you have ever imagined!  Make sure your guy is someone that you can have a blast with!


I am someone that can speak from expirence with this one! i am someone who tries to see the best in EVERYONE.. i accept everyones flaws.. even when i shouldnt and i try to help everyone!!! I have been talked to ugly, mistreated, and even cheated on...by the last of the 2 guys I ve been with!!! NO MORE!!!
Me and God have talked a lot on this topic! I deserve the best! I deserve someone that is going to love, adore me, want me fore me, and loves everything about me good and bad traits and accepts me for me! And VISE VERSA!!!


I ve realized that i have a whole lot to offer to whom ever God brings in my life!!! He may be someone i know or not... but God says a ton in the bible about a marriage and what it should be in the eyes of our God and i trust that.  You see girls you need someone that can be all those things i ve listed above and more... you need someone that Loves our God just as much as you do.. you need someone you can pray with .. and someone you can hold accountable and someone that can hold you accountable!


PRAY PRAY PRAY... girls prayer is the only communication we have with our God!! Pray that God will bring you the perfect someone you want.. that someone that can be all you ever wanted and more!!! We need to as a whole quit focusing on that deep southern traditon that says" Go to college meet your husband get married, and lived happily ever after"...great if it happens to you or someone you know but dont live your day to day life thinking.. i ve got to go out and find that someone!!! Live your life, be you, be content, figure out who you are, and figure out what you want! quit telling God what you want and start asking him what does he want from you... and who does he want you to meet and fall in love with!!!


you have to respect yourself in order for others to respect you.. and the moment you settle you will be unhappy!!! So girls... before you run and hurl yourself into a relationship just bc you want that status of "togetherness" make sure he is someone you get to know.. more importantly someone you want to know, and someone you will be proud to say "he is mine.. he loves and adores me" and something that he can say the same about you!!! ;) girls just live you life and remember to be yourself and be content!! let God do the work!!!


Love you all!